Let’s say you’re single, and it’s been a while since you had sex. A relationship isn’t on your mind, but boy, could you go for some whippy.
After some time you end up getting someone’s number, but you’re not sure what their intentions are. What are you going to do?
Well, you gotta let them know that all you’re looking for is casual sex. Interestingly enough, communication is something you need to engage in when in a friends with benefits type of relationship.
You might think that since you’re just having sex with each other that you don’t need to communicate, but talking will actually improve the relationship, as well as clear up any questions either one of you have.
If you’re having casual sex with someone, there’s a decent chance that they could catch feelings and start to like you. It happens, but if you two communicate and understand one another then you’ll avoid that confusion and have a better experience.
When you first hookup with them, you’ll probably barely say anything between the two of you, which is okay. Let the fire burn hot; you can discuss things next time.
The next time you arrange a “meeting” with them, go out for a drink or two with them beforehand. Keep it casual; nothing romantic, and make sure it’s not some secluded, quiet place.
That’d send the wrong message, and at this point you’re trying to clear the air. When getting drinks, keep the conversation light and friendly, joking around or just keep it from being boring or too romantic.
When you’re talking, try to see how they react to what you say or how they look at you that’ll give you a good idea to how they’re feeling.
When you go back to your place, you’ll have to bite the bullet and talk about what you’re about to do.
Make sure they know it’s just casual sex, and nothing more. Most likely that’s all they thought of the situation as well, but it’s best to make sure; no one needs to get hurt from this.
When you’re getting down with them, communicate. You want the sex to be as bomb as possible, right?
Well, just going about it won’t make the sex amazing. Find out what they like and don’t like, and if they ever suggest something you’re not a fan of, it’s totally okay to tell them that you’re not down with that.
You’d think that with casual sex communication wouldn’t be necessary or even too much. Well, it’s pretty important, unless you’re into horrible sex or giving people the wrong idea.
So when you find someone who’s down to get down, make sure you’re both on the same page emotionally and physically.
It may just be a short relationship maybe they’re an old friend in town for business, or you happened to meet someone in a new city but treat it like you’re going to see that person all the time.
You don’t want to look back on your life and remember all the relationships you had that weren’t so great, so make sure to treat each one equally, even if it’s just casual sex.
You don’t want to be used, do you? Didn’t think so.