You’re on your first date with them, and you’ve been having a great time together. Conversation was easy, there was never an awkward silence, and you found that you have many things in common.
You both laughed here and there and got to know each other pretty well for a first date; you might even think it was the best first date you’ve ever been on.
Clearly the two of you have a connection, and you see yourself going on a second date with them.
There’s a bit of sexual tension as well, but you don’t know if having sex on your first date would be such a good idea, even if they were down with it.
My suggestion is to just go for it, as long as they go along with it too. You might think that waiting would make it more special.
It could be, but if you end up dating each other and your sexual chemistry isn’t on the same level or greater than your chemistry away from bed, your relationship could encounter some issues.
Weeks, months could have gone by before you sleep with each other for the first time, and if you find that you’re not on the same page and don’t work well in bed together, you might have just wasted a lot of time.
Not that it couldn’t be worked out, which it certainly can; for instance, asking them what they like in bed or don’t like, and tell them what you like.
This can clear things up, but it still doesn’t mean you have sexual chemistry.
You might not realize it, but sexual chemistry is very important in a relationship. If you find yourself married and it’s twenty years down the road but you’re not being intimate with each other, your marriage could have some bumpy patches.
You need to be there for each other emotionally, which is very important, but having sex often as well will help your relationship stay as passionate as it was when you first met.
When you have sex with someone for the first time, you learn a lot about them. You get a glimpse into their mind, and into their soul.
If you go months before being intimate, and discover that you’re actually pretty different people, you just wasted some time that you could have spent with someone that you’re on the same page with sexually.
Having sex on the first date doesn’t make you a whore or a slut, or easy. You know what you want, and know how to get it nothing wrong there.
People who don’t have sex on the first date aren’t prudes either; maybe they want to, but are either shy or not sure if their partner is ready yet. Maybe they aren’t.
We’re all different, and adjust to certain things differently. But next time you’re on a first date with someone and you sleep with them, there’s no reason for you to feel bad.
By having sex with them, you learned more about them and can make a more informed decision on whether to keep dating or not.
When you start dating, you try to learn as much as you can about the other person as you can so you can figure out if you’re compatible or if you like them enough to keep seeing them.
By not having sex on the first date, you could end up not knowing something about them that either makes you like them even more or something that would let you know that you should break things off.
If you don’t sleep together on the first date and break things off, you could have missed an opportunity to discover who they really are, and that could have changed your opinion of them drastically.
The next first date you have, consider what sleeping together might do for you. You can either find out you’re not great together or your hopeful thoughts could be reinforced if you have amazing sexual chemistry that you didn’t expect.
Give it a try; you never know what you might learn.